(If you have not read The Choosing by Rachelle Dekker, I would highly recommend it. Stories, I find, have a way of communicating things to the heart in a way that your best sermon, newspaper article or inspiring speech do not even come close to. This book is no exception. And . . . its themes tie in with the topic of this particular blog post.)
Let us talk about value.
So, I was in my early teens when I heard Clay Aiken sing a song called Measure of a Man. It was nice listen. I would tune in simply because it sounded beautiful. But it is also one of those songs that gets you to thinking. You hear people say, “Well, you can tell what this guy is worth by _________ .” They could fill in this blank with actions, character attributes, social status, appearance, economic status . . . and even how high one up one is on the FBI’s most wanted list.
Depending on who you talk to, you are going to run into different opinions.
If you are raised up in some degree of religiosity, you might even run into another fun little qualifier: your ability to please God. Now, certain people clue in a little quicker than their fellows to the reality that on your best day jumping through hoops and keeping commandments, this is futile. You cannot make God like you. God is either going to like you, or God is not going to like you. That depends entirely on the nature and character of the Deity you are worshipping.
And at some point, people may realize that the same applies to the rest of humanity. You cannot make someone like you. They are either going to like you, or they are not going to like you.
Who do you believe you are? Who do you believe your fellow humans to be? Who do you believe God to be? Your POV (point of view) is going to greatly influence how you interact with the world around you.
For instance, if your POV is that God is head-over-heels in love with you and the rest of humanity, it is probably going translate into how you treat people (including yourself). If you believe that there is goodness and worth inside of every human being, it is going to translate into how you treat people. You may give a few more hugs and words of encouragement. You may have more patience with everybody (including yourself)—especially when tripping and falling over one’s own two feet occurs. You may be quicker to forgive everyone.
But if your POV is that God hates you and that you and your fellow human beings are worthless pieces of crap . . . I will let you use your imagination here.
Finally, if your POV consists of measuring your fellow human beings based on some sort of standard you learned as a kid or made up in your head, and you measure yourself by this same standard, you are going to run into challenges. These are naturally complicated by believing that God who thinks the same way about everybody as you do. It turns into a rollercoaster of emotions.
He loves me. He loves me not. She loves me. She loves me not.
We wonder why people have self-esteem issues. Mental breakdowns. Do crazy stuff. Maybe it has a little to do with this???